After a couple of phone calls, I connected with a relative who was John Hugh Breeding’s great-granddaughter (a third cousin once removed of mine). After we visited by phone on a Sunday evening, we made plans for our families to get together at their house near Austin, Texas for the next weekend. This would be my first genealogy meeting (in person). When we met our relative, she had a tremendous amount of information on Huston’s oldest brother and also had some other information on his brothers and sisters as well. We spent probably 6 or 7 hours just listening to stories and trading information. Truly, the time just slipped away for me. I took my scanner and it got some good use and I was able to share with her some of the photos of Byram Breeding and the newspaper articles detailing when Huston was shot. In return, she shared photographs of Huston’s oldest brother and a letter that Huston’s father Byram had written to his second wife Ann after he had left the family.
Just as important, she was able to introduce me to another relative who had devoted some considerable time to researching the Breeding family history. Of course, the one thing they were both interested in was what happened to Byram Breeding (Huston’s father) and the family once they moved from Tennessee to Arkansas. For all of us, it was quite fortunate that I had already assembled much of that information during 2008.
Of course, our good fortune didn’t end there. The very next weekend we traveled up to Fort Worth, Texas to meet another relative and he took us through the information he had gathered. Unlike the previous meeting where I was so focused on the family stories and all the data, this time I took some time to ask process-related “how to” questions on how to find research, how to go into the court houses and where to look for some other genealogical artifacts. Like the earlier meeting, he also suggested that I look into contacting some Tennessee relatives that they had previously met to see if they might be able to share some information on the Breedings with me as well.
At its most fundamental aspect, this project has been much more than just assembling information. It’s really about sharing. From a genealogical standpoint, it’s very difficult to know everything, but when we're able to share and help others go through the barriers that we’ve gone through, that’s what really makes the difference. When I look back, those first few visits (and many others that followed) were so critical to finding the great stories and all the photographs we have uncovered. If I had simply stayed with my direct line, I would have found some good research, but it was only when I extended it out to my second, third and fourth cousins that I found a tremendous amount of material that relatives in my directly line had never seen before. Somewhere along the line, brothers and sisters had traded photographs, letters and other artifacts and those items remained in their families over the years. The only obstacle was just finding these arms of the family, reaching out to them and bringing them into the family discussion.


